Sunday, May 12, 2019

Feeling strangely depressed on this Mother's Day ...

... and there's a familiar cast to the feelings -- as though being re-visited from some deep place where we keep the unfinished business of life...

And, maybe I'm not alone, but simply one of the ba-zillion women, worldwide, who have lived into these later years -- having out-lived logic and bereft of the guideposts that we'd been led to expect would be there as we aged into our traditional roles in life ... .

It's those dim memories, hardly distinguishable from the others, memories of some lines we crossed from childhood through to some ill-defined adulthood within which we somehow survived to be mothers of the young who would succeed us in life.

I can remember -- at about seventeen -- wanting a little black dress, and being told by my mother that young girls do not wear black, that I must wait until I was a grown woman before that could happen.  I believe that I was in my mid-twenties, married, before I owned that little black dress.  Not certain of the reason, but I remember it to this day, it was black crepe, bias-cut, and slinky, and worn to a cocktail party hosted by The Woman, a social club I belonged to at that time -- at the Masonic Hall at 30th off San Pablo in Oakland.  I DO remember that it felt wicked and sophisticated, but that it in no way changed my feelings of not yet being old enough ... not even as a married woman.

Maybe when I became a mother ... .

Nah, not even then.

I now recall with sadness on this Mother's Day how -- somewhere in mid-life -- I dropped into a major depression marked by an unfathomable feeling of disappointment, of having been somehow tricked when I suddenly discovered myself caught between generations, being the acting-parent of 4 children, in a failing marriage, and facing squarely into a projected life of care-taking of aging parents, 'til death do them part.

I'd matured into the "sandwich generation" at a time when I was still needing a mother, only problem was that I'd slipped across some kind of generational divide where -- simultaneously -- life was demanding that I become a mother to my own mother ... and there was no conceivable way to reverse the process.

... and I rose to the occasion, as billions of others had done before me.

As my own mother had done.

... it's what women do.

But, you know what?  I truly believe I hit grown-up somewhere around 68!

Sunday, May 05, 2019

My return to Mt. Diablo Unitarian-Universalist Church in Walnut Creek ... 

Then and now.

So much has been lived through by now, and the chance to update that process with an almost totally different congregation -- fascinating!

The sermon below occurred on a recent Sunday morning, just before taking off on Alaska Airlines for the trip to participate in the conference at the Getty Center hours later the same afternoon.

But despite the changes, it felt like home.

Sunday,March 24, 2019 Talk by Betty Reid Soskin "A Legacy of Love: A Ser...

Monday, April 15, 2019

Lessons learned ... even in these late years ... .

... and they're seemingly unrelated, yet ...

One week ago, I was a participant in one of the annual Google ICloud conferences in San Francisco.  These occur in 3 places, London, Tokyo, and San Francisco.  I'm told that there were 3400 gathered in the Moscone Convention Center for 4 days of workshop sessions, and mine was in one of the smaller meeting rooms that held, maybe, 250 people.  It was a "Fireside chat with Betty Reid Soskin."

It was during the Powerpoint presentation that I learned for the first time that there is a room at Google headquarters in Silicon Valley named for yours truly!  Can you imagine?  It was then that I recalled giving a talk there a few years ago, but had no idea that this had happened.

Lessons learned?  Simple one in this case.  We're leaving tracks even when we're unaware ... .

The other?  This one was a bit less comfortable:

I was aware that one of my songs, "Your hands in mine", that had been introduced in December at the Paramount theater in Oakland, would be featured in the spring concert of the Symphony's Freedom Choir.  What an honor!  And Saturday evening was that time, and I was picked up by Ken Saltztine, a member of the choir, and driven to a lovely church site for the event.  I could hardly wait to hear how it would be arranged, and presented.  This was another of those rare occurrences that are now happening with some regularity, accompanied by a course of elevated adrenaline splashes and sleepless nights for days preceding.

Arriving early, I would sit in a pew with a hand-drawn sign announcing that this was "reserved" for V.I.P's, status I'd never quite found myself formally a member of -- with wired nerve ends, alone, waiting ...

Just before the clock struck eight, Maestro Michael Morgan slipped in beside me, the choir of 108 voices began to file in; the stately choir director, Dr. Lynne Morrow, entered down the center aisle dramatically taking her place at the podium ...

I'd checked the program and found the title of my little song just past the middle and before the intermission, following directly the great hymn of the Civil Rights days, "We shall overcome."

The program was absolutely brilliant!  It consisted of Negro spirituals, all familiar and much-loved.  We proceeded through Ain't got time to die, Kumbiya, Ain't nobody gonna turn me 'roun' etc., then one of the most beautiful arrangements of "We shall overcome" (5 choruses), that I've ever heard, and sung with the passion of professionals with a message.

Then Dr. Morrow introduced my simple little song-- all 2 minutes and 26 seconds of it -- giving the explanation of why it was written and under the circumstances of my response to the treatment the courageous Fannie Lou Hamer faced at the 1964 Democratic Convention -- and I suddenly felt uncomfortable -- embarrassed, wondering how on earth I ever had the audacity to believe that I could ever write anything worthy enough to take the place of that amazingly powerful song that had brought us together at a time when our courage as a people may have been wavering; when our lives were being threatened, and when our voices were providing the sound track for the tumultuous Era of the Sixties?

The soloist, who stepped out of the choir to be me in this moment, did a wonderful job, and pain of it was quickly over; both the feelings and the song.

Maybe, what was familiar about these feelings of discomfort was the reason my music had been hidden away in the back of my closet for fifty years, this feeling of unworthiness.  Yet, at the Paramount theater in December I'd felt triumphant in sharing this song before that audience of friendly strangers.

Why had I not felt this way the night before when this same little song had been sung by children of the Oakland Performing Arts School?  It felt so right just 24 hours ago!  Fitting.  Those middle school kids did such a wonderful job, and the song was so well received by their parents and teachers in that audience.  What made this different?

Why did I have this feeling that somehow, all those many years ago, I'd stepped inappropriately over some line, and my private war with President Lyndon Baines Johnson had spilled over into some V.I.P. "reserved" territory where, I forgot that I was not a composer, but an interloper daring to enter a world that lay far beyond my capacities.


Find myself wondering which of these feelings will prevail as we go forward?

Sunday, April 07, 2019

"In your face", a photo by Carl Bidleman's cameraman, Stefan
Just returned from Missoula, Montana, and my third appearance as a part of the cast of The Moth ..

Our audience was at capacity in the historic Wilma Theater in downtown Missoula, a town with more cowboy hats than I've ever seen in one place--and I'm a lifelong resident of the furthest reach of the West Coast!

I tend to forget that the San Francisco Bay Area's cosmopolitan character has lost its western flavor entirely.  One has to travel inland to find John Wayne's America; I'd forgotten that.  It's easy enough to do since we're now characterized by skyscrapers that boast the most phallic skyline on the West Coast, shouting "My building's bigger than your building" in aluminum, steel, glass, and towering structures that defy logic or most people's budgets!  Looking at the landscape as we approached the landing strip makes one conscious of how densely we're now populated in the urban areas, and how much open space there is just beyond our borders.  It made a mockery of our leader's insistence that the southern borders be shut down immediately since, "we have no more room to share with immigrants."

But I digress.

One of the films in which my personal life is being depicted, is almost ready for release.  Carl Bidleman's long awaited work is nearly ready to be submitted for approval to the Committee on Ethics at the Department of Interior.  Since it is based on my life as a park ranger with the National Park Service, this is a necessary step before approval for public release.

Can't help but wonder how it will be once that happens ... when even during the last two trips, due to the recent bursts of public exposure caused by the Glamour Magazine award, I was recognized in two airports -- once by a security agent!  That's to be expected when in uniform, but when not ... I'm always taken by surprise, and a mixture of pleasure and dismay.

I'm so conflicted upon arrival at airports when ordering my wheelchair (yes!) as my physician has directed me to do with the words, "you've earned it, Betty.  At 97 you should not expect yourself to navigate through the long lines at security or the endless trek to the Gates."  In response I've developed a convenient slight limp to justify the request, then pray fervently that there's no one in that crowd who will recognize me as, "the oldest park ranger in the National Park Service!"  Anyone who really knows me will surely know that I'm capable of one hell of a lot of activity in any one day without even breathing hard!

On my 90th birthday
But the fact that my "handicap" was not evident (I'm assuming), and as my chair was wheeled to the place in the security line where one must be checked for metal, this time I was taken aside for a "pat down".  A strange thing occurred there that surprised me.  A young woman, apologetically and gently, passed her  gloved hands over my body and--rather than outrage--I found myself smiling and pleased, reminded of how long it has been since I'd been touched in quite this way by another human being ... and when living alone in these final years ... how little reason there is for that to happen.  I'd almost forgotten ... .

What is not known is that continuing to travel comes at a cost.  I really am experiencing a level of fear and confusion in those long lines of travelers in their bare feet and rushing past to heaven knows where ... .  It's hard to admit that I may not be any longer in control of whatever it takes to find my way through international airports, and that doing it alone may no longer be either practical or safe.  Were it not for my daughter, Diara, following my wheelchair ready to re-direct in the case of problems, my gallivanting days might well be over.  But, for the moment, we're still ready to go wherever life takes us.

Thank heaven for wheelchair service!  It takes much of the fear away, and makes it possible to continue to travel to adventures and experiences that would otherwise be beyond reach.

Not ready to give up quite yet ... .

Friday, March 29, 2019

Mayor of New Orleans, Mitch Landrieu and John Legend
This statement welcoming the participants to the Conference is an important one to share, I believe ... .

According to Nielsen, Americans watch an average of 36 hours of television every week, making TV writers, producers, and executives among the most influential change makers of our time.  By determining whose lives are reflected on screen, storytellers who work in TV directly impact, more than ever in history of the medium, our shared perception of what's real and what's possible. 

Few opportunities exist for members of the content-creation community to gather and discuss how to better wield this far-reaching cultural impact.  That changes today:  The purpose of A Day of Unreasonable Conversation is to "interrupt your regularly scheduled programming" with new ideas and interlocutors.  Our hope is that the conversation will carry far beyond this gathering as you return to your writers rooms, energized to move the story of progress forward.   
Thanks you for being here.

                                        Greg Propper,  Founder
                                        A Day of Unreasonable Conversation, 
                                        President, Propper Daley

host committee:

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Yes, this is Stacey Abrams with Unreasonable Moi!
I can't imagine that so much time has passed since I last sat down to post ... .

... but the blame is with the impossible pace of my life these days, and surely not because there has been  nothing to say.

Since the experience with the Oakland Symphony, I've faced into the winds of changes unimaginable only a year ago.

The publication of Sign my name to freedom has opened the gates wide into the world of authors where I'm a complete stranger but eager student.  Having been graciously accepted into the new worlds of technology through participating in events for Google, Facebook, Salesforce, Adobe, Nike, etc., in recent months, and having now stumbled into that of Virtual Reality through the artistry of Gary Yost, it feels almost surreal.

But all of that pales in the face of last Monday, spent as one of many Change Makers from all over the country at the Unreasonable Conversations Conference at the Getty Center in Los Angeles.

This was a gathering of the writers, directors, producers, funders, for the television industry.  By invitation, only, these 350 communicators were brought together as audience to those of us considered the change-makers of our times to inform the work of those who will influence the public discourse over the next decade through their work and artistry.  What an assignment!

Taken from the brochure of the sponsoring agency, Propper Daley:

"Reasonable people adapt to the world; the unreasonable ones persist in trying to adapt the world to themselves.  Therefore, all progress depends on unreasonable people."
                                                            George Bernard Shaw  (adapted)

Sunday, January 20, 2019

With Fannie Lou Hamer at the 1964 Democratic convention
I never dreamed that the day would come when words would fail ... .

... yet that day has arrived, and the effects upon my psyche are unimaginable.

Since the memorable experience of the Paramount theater concert, I've met Gary Yost and his magical camera and brilliant artistry with results that are truly indescribable.  But I'll try, while knowing that I'm attempting the impossible.

In this photo taken about a week ago at a film shoot backstage at the Paramount theater and received only today, I'm sitting on a stool being filmed in Virtual Reality.  When completed, I will be describing , in a short piece, the story of the experience of singing with the symphony two weeks ago while watching myself surrounded by the orchestra and 3 choirs!  Gary Yost and Bryan Gibel, the producer/director of the documentary , "Sign my name to freedom," now in progress and to be released early next year, have combined talents to create this 8-minute mind-boggling VR piece that will accompany the documentary when shown at film festivals and elsewhere.  The footage of my performance with the Oakland symphony would be superimposed upon this new scene of Betty the Elder sitting on that stool re-living the unforgettable experience of December 12th in this historic landmarked space.

Watching oneself (and, yes, I've acquired an Oculus headset that allows for that) in this manner is about as close to living an out-of-body experience that one possibly can have, short of a hologram.

By pre-arrangement they'd brought together several theater staff to open the theater early in the day to meet with us, to grant access to the backstage area, and to provide the necessary lighting for the filming.   It was all accomplished in a single take and, with a "thumbs up" signal and within about 40-minutes, we were finished and on our way to our various homes.  Had those highly-talented professionals not become engaged in animated side chats about the cameras, exposures, possibilities of the new technology, with the fascinated theater folks, we might  well have accomplished it all in even less time.

The  dramatic results (downloaded from a computer in his Marin County studio and uploaded into a headset in my home in Richmond after step-by-step instructions by cellphone) I've now viewed and wept over the fact that I'm not only contained in that headset, but along with the likes of Ram Dass and Peter Coyote and, when completed, 98 others, and that I'm now able to watch myself as the world sees me, and listen to myself as the world hears me, and that my descendants will do so as long as there's a planet to stand on ... .

At a Salesforce Diversity Conference
on a VR "Serengeti Tour" with Smokey

in the year 2017
And, if you insist upon asking just how in the world I was included in that list, then we'll just have to part company.  That would mean that you'd be questioning Al Jazzera, Der Spiegel,  The Guardian, Glamour Magazine, The National Parks Conservancy Association, the National Parks Service, CBS, British Airways, United, the South Korean National Parks, the National Women's History Project,  the Sierra Club,  People for the Global Majority, etc., etc., etc, and were that to happen it would bring down the entire House of Cards!

I have no idea, but no longer question the workings of the God of Whomever Makes Such Decisions, and simply accept them with as much grace as can be mustered through the grins of disbelief at the sheer audacity of the young in this technological  and competitive world of lightning-quick advances and Lists of What- or Whom-ever for What-ever!

What I do know is that Gary Yost is collecting "Wisdom Leaders" of this century in VR to be archived for later viewing by succeeding generations.  Later, meaning that my great-great-great-grandchildren, centuries from now, will be able to sit in a room with me in this process that is shot with one of the 14(?) such cameras in-the-world that takes 360 degree images with its 10 camera coverage -- (see what I mean?).  Indescribable.

How thrilling it would be if I could sit for just a few minutes at the feet of my great-grandmother, Leontine, who was born in 1846 and enslaved throughout her childhood and adolescence -- but who lived to be 102, surviving until 1948.  I knew her, and was 27 years-old when we received word of her death.  What I would give to have been able to listen to her stories as I live out my time on the planet ...

That -- and this defies logic -- combined with the fact that this is all sponsored by the Long Now Foundation, who is creating the beyond one's wildest imaginings, the 10,000 year clock housed in a cave somewhere in Texas -- funded by Jeff Bezos.

See what I mean?

Sunday, January 06, 2019

It has now been over two weeks of the governmental Shutdown ... .

... and I'm slowly leaving my park ranger identity and assuming the role of private citizen.  The fact that -- not only has the break in the daily routine of going to work been upsetting -- but that I have need now to remind myself by sneaking peeks at my cellphone to see just what day I'm in the middle of.  Reminding myself that I'm old and that not remembering what day this is may be the first symptom of the dreaded Alzheimers!

I'm also beginning to disconnect from the need to never speak harshly of anyone in federal government since I'm an employee of same.  That means that I listen to our fearless leader responding to questions from the inquiring press when asked if he ever thinks about the federal workers now idle and without paychecks ... "most of them are in support of my position!"  Not!

I miss not only my paycheck, but those friends with whom I spend my days, the audiences who come to hear my presentations, those moments before entering our little theater when I sit behind the exhibits at the windows facing the waters and watching the soaring gulls and brown pelicans, the sassy crows, the cormorants and  other unidentified birdlife, the graceful sailboats, the Bay Trail cyclists, and the wind in that giant eucalyptus that stands just off the entrance to our Visitor Center.  I miss the interrupted rhythm of my life and work, in this, the most important and final period of my life.

Then -- as I allow my mind to wander -- I think to myself that this nation is protected by not only the southern border, but by the Atlantic and Pacific oceans on the East and West, plus a one-third longer northern border that stands undisputed and open!  Were I a terrorist, where do you suppose I'd choose to enter?

And why, do you suppose, have I never seen a chart where "illegals" from above that northern border were quantified and challenged?  We've been told almost daily about the estimated 22 million "illegals" who are in this country from Mexico, Honduras, El Salvador, Guatemala, etc., but never have I seen a figure for those from Canada who've over-stayed their visas or who are in this country without the required permission or authority.

The "elephant in the room"?

You don't suppose ... .

Nah.  It's just that we don't want those from s--t hole countries!  Denying entry to our democracy by skin color would be unthinkable, right?